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She'd slip into a quiet booth. "It's healing fine and since it's on my arm any long sleeve shirt will cover it. I'm not worried about it." She'd pause. "...but the last couple days of the trip and...since we've been home you've seemed especially distant. That does worry me. Is everything ok?"
Eric SelwynRavenclaw Alumnus -Jack of all trades... Master of none – 18:59, April 25, 2018 (UTC)~
He shrugged. "I was giving you space. That trip... it didn't... nothing felt right about it, really."
She'd pause to consider. "I mean...we found and studied the dugbogs which was the work goal of the trip. We managed to scare off some poachers and rescue some creatures that needed it and helped restore some balance to the ecosystem there. I wasn't thrilled with our fight or that the trip wasn't what you had thought it would be...but I didn't think it was a complete waste either."
Eric SelwynRavenclaw Alumnus -Jack of all trades... Master of none – 19:05, April 25, 2018 (UTC)~
He nodded, licking his ice cream. Clearly that had just been a work trip for her.
She'd frown slightly. "I guess it was a mistake for you to come on a work trip with me. Like I said I thought you'd like to see what I did and...maybe be interested in it. I didn't realize that it would be a complete waste of your time. I thought at the very least getting to spend the time together would make it worth it for you."
Eric SelwynRavenclaw Alumnus -Jack of all trades... Master of none – 19:09, April 25, 2018 (UTC)~
"And when you said you were going to bring me on a work trip... I didn't think you were expecting me to... do your work with you. That's not my work, and I don't think I've ever shown any interest... so I'm not sure why you got that impression. I thought you'd be doing some work, but recognize that it was a trip away for us both and... not just do that the entire time."
She'd sigh. "It's not like I worked the whole time Eric. We had the evenings most evenings and the nights. It's not like we could just...go to a local theatre or something. I guess I just hoped that since it's my interest you would be interested too. Sorry I was wrong." This conversation was already going badly.
Eric SelwynRavenclaw Alumnus -Jack of all trades... Master of none – 19:13, April 25, 2018 (UTC)~
He frowned. "Why...? It's not like I've forced you to be interested in any of the things that I am."
She'd shake her head trying not to get frustrated with repeating herself. "I wasn't trying to force you. That wasn't my intention. Like I said I thought you might like to see what I do and spend the time with me. I thought we'd talked and when you agreed to go I thought that meant that was the case." She'd pause. "I'm sorry...I was wrong." She hated saying those words.
Eric SelwynRavenclaw Alumnus -Jack of all trades... Master of none – 19:17, April 25, 2018 (UTC)~
He nodded. "I'm sorry our... expectations didn't align." He paused. "Next time we'll have to go somewhere where we both just get to relax and enjoy each other." He grinned a bit. "And sleep in a proper bed."
She'd nod. "Ummm...yeah. I thought about what you said about how I was different and...you're right. I think when I'm out there with the beasts and being a tigress and such that to get into the mindset I need I have to be different. More...primal you know? Part of that is not having those type of luxuries and getting more in tune with the earth and myself. I was thinking about it and you mentioned I like to doll myself up and that's true...I've always enjoyed that but I think it's more important now. I realized when I get back from a trip sometimes I have difficulty...reintegrating myself back into civilization...especially after two week trips or when I've spent any significant amount of time in my other form. I think getting all cleaned up and putting on soft luxurious clothes and makeup and everything helps remind me I'm not out there anymore and helps my mind realize things are back to the norm for when I'm here." She'd frown slightly. "Does...that make any sense?"
Eric SelwynRavenclaw Alumnus -Jack of all trades... Master of none – 19:37, April 25, 2018 (UTC)~
He nodded. "It explains why you'd get back and I wouldn't always hear from you right away. It's part of why... I didn't owl you or anything for a bit when we got back."
She'd nod. "I appreciate that. I was trying to give you some time too after this trip since I know you didn't really enjoy it...but the time is appreciated. I remember coming home from one trip and seeing you that same night and all night just wanting to...jump on you and rip your clothes off." She'd let out a little laugh. "Obviously I didn't but sometimes fighting those natural urges can be hard."
Eric SelwynRavenclaw Alumnus -Jack of all trades... Master of none – 19:41, April 25, 2018 (UTC)~
"I wouldn't have minded," he said with an amused smile.
She'd laugh. "I didn't think so but it was before we'd slept together and probably would have made things a little more awkward especially if I just assumed you were ok with it." She'd shake her head. "Anyway, it's part of my job and...who I am but I realized I hadn't thought about why I was doing those things until you pointed them out...just doing them."
Eric SelwynRavenclaw Alumnus -Jack of all trades... Master of none – 19:46, April 25, 2018 (UTC)
He nodded. "It's... part of why it probably doesn't make sense for me to come on any more work trips. That's clearly more of your element... and it would seem you probably do better on your own."
She'd nod thoughtfully. "Yeah though of course I'd want to be married before we have any kids." She'd pause. "I guess I honestly don't think about kids too much just because I have so many nieces and nephews that I spend time with I get that kid craving filled." She'd pause then quickly continue. "Not that I don't want them...just don't have that need a baby fever you know?"
Eric SelwynRavenclaw Alumnus -Jack of all trades... Master of none – 18:58, April 26, 2018 (UTC)
He nodded. "I... didn't mean to imply that I'd want kids before marriage, if somehow I did." He paused. "Your sister... she was pregnant, right? How many nieces and nephews do you have now?"
She'd shake her head. "You didn't...I was just thinking out loud. Charity and Ash have three boys and a girl and Faith and Thomas both have little girls...so three of each right now plus Thomas' wife Elle's brother has three little ones I see occasionally when I visit them."
Eric SelwynRavenclaw Alumnus -Jack of all trades... Master of none – 19:11, April 26, 2018 (UTC)
He nodded. "And your brother Mark is married, too, right? Any kids there, or not yet?"
She'd shake her head. "None yet though I think they might be trying...? Mal does have siblings and I know at least one has a kid though I don't think I met them. Most of them are in America anyway though one of her sisters does work with me at the Ministry."
Eric SelwynRavenclaw Alumnus -Jack of all trades... Master of none – 19:15, April 26, 2018 (UTC)
He nodded. "Is... getting married or having kids something that's... ever on your mind?"
OOC: I know at one time Mal's sister did... but I'm pretty sure that char got deleted awhile back. :P
She'd look a little surprised by the question. "I mean not really having kids like I said since getting married should...probably come first but I do think about getting married." She'd pause. "Do you?"
Eric SelwynRavenclaw Alumnus -Jack of all trades... Master of none – 19:18, April 26, 2018 (UTC)~
She'd look a little surprised...she'd been more asking what kind of wedding he wanted or what colors more than...if he was actually ready to marry her or not. She'd hesitate then decide honesty was probably the best way to go on this one. "Well before the trip I think I probably would have said yes. With how the trip went...I'm a little more hesitant since it really...exemplified the differences between us." She'd pause and gently put a hand on his cheek. "I mean...I love you Eric. I do. ...but Marriage is supposed to be for life and...I mean do you really think we can make that sort of commitment to one another given how different we obviously feel about some things?"
Eric SelwynRavenclaw Alumnus -Jack of all trades... Master of none – 21:08, April 30, 2018 (UTC)~
He frowned. "I know the trip didn't go well. But I didn't think it was a deal breaker, either. We're different people, sure. But no two people are exactly alike, and no two people in a couple are exactly alike." He paused, his frown increasing. "Did something happen that made you think that we aren't... good together?"
She'd shake her head. "No...and I don't want to break up or anything but...I feel like maybe we don't quite know each other as well as we thought? I mean I didn't realize how important things like...a soft bed were to you and I know you felt I was very different than you thought?"
Eric SelwynRavenclaw Alumnus -Jack of all trades... Master of none – 21:14, April 30, 2018 (UTC)~
"On the trip, maybe. But you don't act that way in your... regular, every day life. So I didn't see it as an issue as much?"
She'd take a moment to think about it choosing her words carefully. "I guess...the argument we had also made me...hesitate where you assumed I was going to go kill people. I mean...if we were going to get married I would want you to know me well enough to know that's not even...in my character you know?"
Eric SelwynRavenclaw Alumnus -Jack of all trades... Master of none – 21:25, April 30, 2018 (UTC)~
"You said you were going to attack them, Melinda," he said. He didn't want to rehash this argument... but since she'd brought it up.... "Maybe you weren't going to intentionally kill them, but attacking is... attacking. It's still a threat of violence."
"Which is why I'm hesitant on getting engaged. Clearly we don't know each other well enough to move to that step quite yet. I don't want to stop dating or see other people or anything...I just don't know that we're ready to take quite a large step you know?"
Eric SelwynRavenclaw Alumnus -Jack of all trades... Master of none – 21:46, April 30, 2018 (UTC)~
"Maybe, but won't we be getting to know each other... over our entire lives? I mean I'm sure you could ask Charity and she'd tell you there are things she doesn't know about Ash, and they've been married for how long?"
She'd frown. "It's not off the table Eric...but you asked me if you asked right now if I would say yes or not...and I honestly don't know. That doesn't mean that it's off the table indefinitely though."
Eric SelwynRavenclaw Alumnus -Jack of all trades... Master of none – 21:58, April 30, 2018 (UTC)
"What you said was that prior to the trip, you would've said yes. And now you would've hesitated."